For context, you definitely want to have a quick read over part one again. OK? Good. There’s one last problem which will make a mockery of your peace of mind. Problem 3: The Hottie Paradox This is more of an issue for men, but I think it goes both ways to some extent. I think [...]
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How not to get hurt. Part 2 of 2
Posted in dating tips on February 14, 2011 | 2 Comments »
hacking okcupid Quickmatch, part two
Posted in dating tips on January 28, 2011 | 1 Comment »
A reader writes, I have a question about one of the tips you guys offered on your blog about hacking okcupid’s annoying quickmatch mailout. Thanks for the tip btw! So it just identifies the nine people who might have rated you it seems. Is there a way to find out who the actual one is [...]
How not to get hurt. Part 1 of 2
Posted in dating tips on May 5, 2010 | 3 Comments »
OK, let’s be clear and get the bad news out of the way first. The fact is you’re dating, and that means sooner or later you’re going to get your ass hurt (doubly true for all you bears). Despite your best efforts and before long, some uncouth whelp is going to boot you firmly in [...]
What’s your type? Part 1 of 2
Posted in dating tips, good dates on March 30, 2010 | 3 Comments »
Here is a story. A story When I was nineteen, I was at university in Scotland, and one year into my first serious adult relationship. Her name was Colette. We were both making the most of our first big adventure away from home: happily ensconced in our cheap student halls, ringing all hours with music [...]
Tech tip: hacking OKCupid mailouts
Posted in dating tips, online profiles on March 18, 2010 | 4 Comments »
In OKCupid they send you emails like this: Hurray! Someone chose you on Quickmatch. We’re not going to tell you exactly who, but it was one of these people! Log in and rate your matches to find out which one! Along with an image like this: This is frankly annoying. It’s even more annoying that [...]
What to wear for a first date, boy’s edition
Posted in bad dates, dating tips on March 12, 2010 | 4 Comments »
This is a response to Gaga’s sartorial post. Actually it’s never occurred to me to do the ‘I am wearing’ chat beforehand. “I will be the gentleman in the scarlet fedora drinking Baileys from a shoe.” But then I’m not arranging dates with J-girls at the NY Asian Film Festival, so the task of identification [...]
How long should you wait before the second date?
Posted in dating tips, good dates on February 24, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Thanks to reader Cleo for suggesting we talk about date timing. So you had your awesome first date. Well done! You are now itching to press face some more. What do you do now? How long do you wait? When planning your followup, the implicit message is that the chosen interval will be a model [...]
A good first date: Annie
Posted in dating tips, good dates on February 23, 2010 | 3 Comments »
Let’s take a closer look at a good first date I had recently, lest there be some vital lesson going unlearned. In fact, let’s obsess over it. Dissect every glance, exchange and fleeting touch. JUST FOR A CHANGE, you understand. The date Unlike Gaga, I’m not going to refer to my dates’ names by their [...]
5 more profile mistakes to avoid
Posted in dating tips, online profiles on February 19, 2010 | 1 Comment »
We’ve already started to round up the cardinal profile sins for both boys and girls. That’s not nearly the whole story though by Jebus, ho ho no. Here are some more ways in which you can inadvertently jizz in your own chips. Figuratively speaking. Proving your adventurer credentials. Remember, your pictures are there to prove [...]
5 great places for a first date, a response
Posted in dating tips, good dates on February 4, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
This is in reply to Gaga’s super-helpful original post. Grokked that? Grand. > Nail down a face-to-face date after no more than two e-mails Absolutely agree on this one. The key word is MOMENTUM. You and your date jointly have a steep hill to climb, which is the journey from being complete strangers to finally [...]
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