Comments for The Dates of Wrath http://datesofwrath.com There's a reason you're still single Thu, 07 Jul 2011 16:59:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on How aggressive is too aggressive? by another lady http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/23/how-aggressive-is-too-aggressive/#comment-383 Thu, 07 Jul 2011 16:59:25 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=964#comment-383 you have to wait. it’s not a game. it’s biology. men are hunters and women are gatherers. i like to think of it more as a dance. let the man take the lead. and most importantly. don’t have any notifications sent to you outside of the dating site. that way you can check it at your leisure, and you’re not on eggshells waiting to hear from the dude. also, if you don’t check it right away, there is more opportunity for more time to pass. and you won’t appear overeager without even trying.

]]> Comment on hacking okcupid Quickmatch, part two by Monica http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/28/hacking-okcupid-quickmatch-part-two/#comment-380 Sun, 19 Jun 2011 19:59:54 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=969#comment-380 If you look at the “who’s been looking at you” section you can match their sexy pics,and/or pair the time the person viewed your profile with the time that you received the email. I’d say this method has worked for me about 90% of the time.

Happy lurking!

]]> Comment on How not to get hurt. Part 2 of 2 by Air http://datesofwrath.com/2011/02/14/how-not-to-get-hurt-part-2-of-2/#comment-299 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 19:12:45 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=855#comment-299 My first ever date in NYC was via Nerve. That’s when I learned that it’s never a good idea to go on a date when you are IQ-halvingly hungover. Thankfully she was A Talker so I could go on autopilot and tremble quietly.

Nerve itself was a bit ghetto as I remember, but I imagine they’ve revamped things a little since 2007.

]]> Comment on How not to get hurt. Part 2 of 2 by Cleo http://datesofwrath.com/2011/02/14/how-not-to-get-hurt-part-2-of-2/#comment-295 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 19:59:53 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=855#comment-295 This is helpful as well as hilarious. I am going to try Chemistry. Thank you. What does anyone think/know about Nerve, btw?

Until now I’ve always gone with “assholery”–but the nuance of disease in “assholicism” is better. Who’d behave like that if they could help it? Thanks for that as well!

]]> Comment on How aggressive is too aggressive? by Air http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/23/how-aggressive-is-too-aggressive/#comment-284 Fri, 28 Jan 2011 17:31:51 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=964#comment-284 > work

I confess I am a huge Getting Things Done nerd as well. It’s the only way.

In this game in particular you definitely need some kind of strategy to avoid being overwhelmed.

> timing

This is a total non-issue for me. If a response comes back in two minutes or two days, that’s an interesting fact but it’s not going to put me off someone.

Content matters mind you. If the content is, ‘finally I have found my soulmate and my mother will have grandchildren’ then that’s another story.

I accept that some guys are going to be different from me and will view a rapid response as being over-eager (or something, I imagine). However, you should also accept that those guys are fucking idiots.

The pain of dating is that there are a hundred reasons why communication will just abruptly end. The timing of your response isn’t one that should worry you, in my view.

]]> Comment on How aggressive is too aggressive? by Cleo http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/23/how-aggressive-is-too-aggressive/#comment-282 Sun, 23 Jan 2011 21:03:02 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=964#comment-282 When I first got online, my brother was very insistent with me on this point–he didn’t say a few days, but a minimum of 24 hours. My reaction was the same as yours. Who could possibly be bothered? And why play hard to get? For most people, you’re impossible to get, but why hide your interest when it is provoked? I ignored the advice (he wasn’t the only one giving it, either). I’ve concluded the peanut gallery was correct, though. It’s stupid and sexist and inauthentic–and the cost of doing business. Promptness comes across as overeager in this context. As for how you get yourself to do it, you have to stop arguing the merits and just accept your fate. You remember it the same way you remember to pick up your laundry. That said, who knows whether this was the Vegan’s problem. Frankly, any guy who describes himself as not usually a flake probably doesn’t deserve a date with Gaga.

]]> Comment on 2010, the year in dating by Air http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/07/2010-the-year-in-dating/#comment-280 Wed, 19 Jan 2011 13:46:11 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=876#comment-280 Mail sent!

]]> Comment on 2010, the year in dating by Toast http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/07/2010-the-year-in-dating/#comment-279 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 09:45:33 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=876#comment-279 Air,

What is an email address we can reach you on? We need to co-ordinate various things for the trip

All the best,

Toast

]]> Comment on 2010, the year in dating by Toast http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/07/2010-the-year-in-dating/#comment-266 Sun, 09 Jan 2011 11:33:14 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=876#comment-266 Hurrah! Glad to hear you are back, and thanks for the lovely plug.

]]> Comment on 2010, the year in dating by Cleo http://datesofwrath.com/2011/01/07/2010-the-year-in-dating/#comment-259 Sat, 08 Jan 2011 14:31:45 +0000 http://datesofwrath.com/?p=876#comment-259 Thank God.

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